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Are you ‘that’ person?

16 annoying people to be around (are you on this list?)
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If life is feeling hard, you’re struggling to refuel your energy and inspiration is missing, it might be worth taking a look at the people around you. Could they be part of the problem?

Have a think about the people you spend time with and how they make you feel. Do you come home from seeing friends and want to stab yourself in the eye? Chances are, you’re hanging out with people who deplete or diminish you in some way. Perhaps you finish the work day with your heart pounding and your positivity drained, because your energy stealing colleague has poisoned you with their negativity.

You don’t need us to tell you that the world is full of annoying people – you might be one of them (as might we)! No-one is perfect and we all have our annoying moments, but certain behaviours can impact us in a deep and long-lasting way. Is that really something we’re prepared to put up with?

With that in mind, we’ve compiled a list of the 16 types of people you tell us are most annoying. We’re not talking about those universally triggering behaviours here, like speaking too loudly on the phone or chewing with your mouth open; we’ve whittled our list down to the traits that can have a profound and detrimental impact on the people they interact with. Here are the ones to watch out for:

  1. The energy vampire
  2. The complainer
  3. The negative nelly
  4. The victim (woe is me)
  5. The blamer
  6. The bragger (or the humble-bragger, who researchers have found is even worse than a regular bragger)
  7. The irritator
  8. The unlucky one
  9. The unreliable one
  10. The passive-aggressive one
  11. The gossip
  12. The selfish and self-consumed one
  13. The boring one
  14. The unaware one (they really don’t get the impact they have on others)
  15. The provoker (they love conflict and will disagree at any cost)
  16. The drama queen (they get energy from this)

Now, if you read through this list and recognised any of your own behaviours – stop it right now! We behave in ways that serve us, so maybe you demonstrate some of these traits because there’s a pay-off for you, like you receive attention or sympathy, but at the expense of your relationships, not to mention your reputation.

If you’re not on this list, but have people in your world who are, consider limiting the time you spend with them. If you’re not quite ready (or able) to cut them out of your life, think about how you could move them to your B-list, create better boundaries or avoid participating in or rewarding – their behaviour.

And if you’re keen to learn how to work with – rather than against – these kinds of annoying people, check out this TED Talk, in which communication trainer Jay Johnson praises the power of understanding the ‘why’ behind peoples’ difficult traits. You might also like to read back over this article we wrote about how to get along with people you don’t like. The perils of being a grown-up, right?

– The Coach Place Global

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